In-Tact Relationships with In-Laws
In my own family, I've found it very easy to love and accept my in-laws. I really love them and think that we all do a great job at accepting one another. Perhaps it's because my in-laws have had a lot of experience with new additions to the family. My husband has two older brothers who have both been married for over 10 years! Their wives are very easily accepted into the family, and once I married my husband (2 years ago at the end of this month), I felt a little more accepted into the family as well.
At first, I feel that there was a little bit of difficulty within the merging of our families. I could feel a little bit of contention and opposition with the idea of Jared and I getting married in the first place, but for the most part, everything worked out in the end. I can definitely see where some people come from when it comes to troubled relationships with our in-laws. It usually starts early in the relationship! Common disagreements revolve around differences in personalities or even just the way we think!
It's been interesting to see all the issues that couples have with their in-laws. There seems to be a stigma around being amongst our in-laws. I think that in-laws can bring a lot of health into a marriage. Having a close in-tact relationship with our in-laws can allow us to make family traditions, establish our own family rules, and even receive great advice from family members who want to see us succeed.
We shouldn't fully rely on our in-laws to establish the culture of our together-home, but taking the good parts of both families-of-origin, can definitely help each spouse to feel comfortable familial ties in their relationship. Elder Harold B. Lee explains that "Great love is built on great sacrifice, and that home where the principle of sacrifice for the welfare of each other is daily expressed is that home where there abides a great love” (in Conference Report, Apr. 1947, 49). We must give up things in order to create something great and new, but we can also adopt some of those traditions and rules as building blocks in order to do so.
I am grateful that we have the opportunity to admire marriages that have come before us. In-laws can serve as mentors to struggling marriages, and can even help us to better appreciate our spouse. I have come to love my own in-laws, and have created really great friendships by accepting the loving family ties that have come with them. I am thankful that my own husband makes a true and honest effort to come to know my own family. It is beautiful that two families can come closer together by the marriage of two individuals. A newer, greater, family can be made from the building blocks that our own families of origin have given us. I'm thankful to have those tools and building blocks as we begin in our endeavor to create a family.
At first, I feel that there was a little bit of difficulty within the merging of our families. I could feel a little bit of contention and opposition with the idea of Jared and I getting married in the first place, but for the most part, everything worked out in the end. I can definitely see where some people come from when it comes to troubled relationships with our in-laws. It usually starts early in the relationship! Common disagreements revolve around differences in personalities or even just the way we think!
It's been interesting to see all the issues that couples have with their in-laws. There seems to be a stigma around being amongst our in-laws. I think that in-laws can bring a lot of health into a marriage. Having a close in-tact relationship with our in-laws can allow us to make family traditions, establish our own family rules, and even receive great advice from family members who want to see us succeed.
We shouldn't fully rely on our in-laws to establish the culture of our together-home, but taking the good parts of both families-of-origin, can definitely help each spouse to feel comfortable familial ties in their relationship. Elder Harold B. Lee explains that "Great love is built on great sacrifice, and that home where the principle of sacrifice for the welfare of each other is daily expressed is that home where there abides a great love” (in Conference Report, Apr. 1947, 49). We must give up things in order to create something great and new, but we can also adopt some of those traditions and rules as building blocks in order to do so.
I am grateful that we have the opportunity to admire marriages that have come before us. In-laws can serve as mentors to struggling marriages, and can even help us to better appreciate our spouse. I have come to love my own in-laws, and have created really great friendships by accepting the loving family ties that have come with them. I am thankful that my own husband makes a true and honest effort to come to know my own family. It is beautiful that two families can come closer together by the marriage of two individuals. A newer, greater, family can be made from the building blocks that our own families of origin have given us. I'm thankful to have those tools and building blocks as we begin in our endeavor to create a family.
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